BACKGROUND: Refugee experiences significantly challenge personal identity, especially for youth orienting themselves in new cultural contexts. The study explores the complex process of balancing expectations from two cultures: how do formative encounters in Norway mold the self-perception and sense of belonging of those who arrived as child and adolescent refugees? METHODS: A qualitative approach in which life story interviews were conducted with eight young refugees who arrived in Norway between the ages of 8 and 17 years was used. Through thematic analysis grounded in hermeneutical phenomenology, we analyzed their narratives to identify core experiences and perspectives. The interviews lasted 90-150 min, providing insights into personal identity development amid cultural adaptation. RESULTS: A recurring and overarching theme is that participants grapple with feelings of "outsiderness" both in Norwegian society and within their culture of origin, creating a dual sense of alienation. This experience is painful, but they also perceive that it has given them the opportunity to develop open-mindedness and a unique perspective on cultural existence. Three subthemes were identified that describe various aspects of these narratives in greater detail: (1) Experiences of being a stranger
(2) value conflicts, but value reconciliation is possible
and (3) a unique perspective: navigating between two cultures. The narratives highlight the complex negotiation between maintaining heritage and adapting to Norwegian norms. CONCLUSIONS: The study of participants' narrative identities reveals ways of coping with these transitions, revealing how participants continuously reconstruct their self-narratives to adapt to their new cultural environment. The findings suggest that while acculturation is a challenging process characterized by psychological tension and existential vulnerability, it can also foster personal resilience and new opportunities for meaning-making. The research contributes to understanding the refugee experience in Norway, emphasizing the need for social support systems that acknowledge both the struggles and potential for growth inherent in cultural integration.