Based on the survey data of the basic topic of family history topic in the period 1976-1986, implemented by the Institute of Family and Gender Research in 2018 in Nghia Hung and Nghia Thang communes, Nghia Hung district, province Nam Dinh, studying the mental support between parents and children in rural areas in the north of 1976-1986. The research results show that in this period, in addition to the physical support, the mental support activities such as: parents help their children look after them when they are young, take care of them when they are sick, take care When a child is born or ill, helping the child to settle down when there is a family conflict ... plays a very important role in helping young couples create a stable family background during the first 5 years just married. The mutual assistance, the healthy leaves protect the torn leaves, among these friendly members also reflect a traditional beauty throughout the history of the Vietnamese nation.